Focus On What Works

I just read a Facebook post by Marcus Buckingham.  He’s a thought leader on “strengths” and in his post today he suggested we look back on our results from the first quarter of 2011 (Q1) and see what went well.  Then, he very simply suggests to do more of what worked in Q1 through the rest of the year.  It’s such an uncomplicated approach:  look at what works and do more of that.

Conventional leadership wisdom and total quality initiatives of the past would have us search for “gaps” in performance, systems, and processes.  Then, once we’ve identified the gaps, we can focus all our energy on fixing them.  The problem with that approach is that we then take our eye off what’s working.  We’re so busy plugging holes in the dike that we aren’t focused on keeping the rest of the dike strong and able to withstand the winds of change on the way.  Buckingham argues that we should focus on our strengths and work to leverage them.  This approach is very similar to a research concept called Appreciative Inquiry.  This is the philosophy of looking at what is “right” in an organization and creating more opportunities to do those things that bring energy, engagement, and enjoyment.

So, what made you happy in Q1?  What did you do that brought you joy, outstanding results, and a feeling of accomplishment?  For me, it was the simple act of following a plan.  I had a big project kick off right after the first of the year.  There were 6 key deliverables that required work with more than 10 subject matter experts.  I needed to make a plan and work the plan!  By having the discipline to follow my plan (instead of just flying by the seat of my pants, which I sometimes do) I’ve been able to produce results for the client with efficiency, and in some cases, ahead of schedule.

Here’s to a great rest of 2011!

Lynae

Curveballs

Recently, my yoga instructor opened class with this philosophical ditty:  “When life throws you a curveball, try to find the wisdom and grace to look upward and say: ‘Nice pitch!’” Well, he got me with that one . . . I’ve shared it with friends, clients and colleagues repeatedly.  Since then, I’ve been pre-occupied with thinking about how I react when life throws me curveballs.  Usually, I get frustrated.  Then, I get irritated.  Suddenly, it looks as though there are more curveballs being thrown my way.  Because─now I’m looking through a lens that filters everything so I see problems or challenges where I might not have otherwise.  When a curveball heads my way, sometimes I throw my bat instead of simply accepting that, for the moment, I’ve been bested.

The wisdom and grace to say “nice pitch” would allow me to accept that I missed a pitch!  So what?  That doesn’t make me ineffective or incapable or incompetent.  It makes me human.  Joe DiMaggio had a lifetime batting average of .398, and he’s considered one of the greatest ball players in history.  That’s a swell average!  And, it means he missed some pitches too.  While sports analogies aren’t exactly my forte, this one helps me point out that being great doesn’t mean being perfect.  It means accepting that sometimes you swing and miss.  Wisdom and grace allows us all to accept our humanity─our strengths, our weaknesses, and our potential.

As leaders, we have to keep in mind how our responses to curveballs provide a model for how our teams deal with their own misses.  Here are some questions for reflection:

• Does your team see you throw the bat? Or, do they see you smile, step back, take a breath, and try again?
• How do you expect your team to deal with curveballs?
• Do you create an environment where it’s okay to swing and miss once in a while?
• How do you help your team learn to watch for curveballs so they are ready to respond appropriately?
• When someone “hits one out of the park” do you take a close look and find out why so you can ensure it happens again and again?

Batter up!

Lynae

Reigniting Employee Passion

Today, I read an article from the Ken Blanchard Companies about how it’s important that leaders don’t take their employees for granted.  In the article, Blanchard points out that the recent downturn in the economy and challenges in the workplace may have lead to a bit of apathy in leadership.  He says: “I think that there have been some organizations who felt that the recent lack of options for employees let them get away with less than great practices with their people. And so I think that people are at a pretty low level of trust and excitement with many of the organizations they are working for.”

This perspective got me thinking . . . is there ever a “best” or “better” time to build spirit and motivation among your team?  Well, I think Ken Blanchard makes a great point.  And, I also think anytime is a good time to cultivate trust, build excitement around organizational goals, and ignite employee passions.  At Madd-Steiny Productions, we work with companies during both times of abundance and times of challenge.  Regardless of the circumstances, we encourage leaders to focus on making sure employees are engaged and have the tools they need to succeed, no matter what the job is or what the times are like.

So, whether there are rough waters ahead, or smooth sailing . . . what are you going to do today to ignite the passions of your employees?  Here are some ideas:

• Walk around today and look for people “doing something right” and thank them for it on the spot.
• Meet with everyone on your team and ask if the job allows them to exercise their strengths regularly.  If not, try to add a project or shift some responsibilities to allow them more time doing what makes them feel strong.  (This will pay dividends in spades!
• Get the team together for an informal celebration.  At the end of the day sometime soon, invite everyone to an impromptu meeting in the conference room.  When they arrive, have some nibbles and sodas for them.  Let them know the occasion is just to say thanks for their hard work.
• Re-calibrate goals and objectives.  Is everyone still focused on what matters most?  If not, get everyone moving in the direction the organization needs and where they can bring their best to the job.
• Ask your team for ideas on what you can do to communicate more clearly, reinforce priorities, and clear the way for them to do their job.  They’ll appreciate you for it.

With passion,

Lynae

Why do we tend to look at what others are doing, instead of at what we are doing?

I’m a human being.  Yep, I admit it.  And, as one, I am guilty of looking outside of myself for the cause of my problems, my feelings, and my results.  Irritating.  I know I shouldn’t, because I have a giant responsibility (if not the sole responsibility) for everything that happens in my life.  Duh.  So why is it that I sometimes find myself looking around me for causes when the results aren’t what I’d like?  Why does anyone?

When I look outward, it’s because I don’t want to look at the character flaws I know I possess.  It’s easier to notice someone else’s flaws.  It doesn’t sting as much.  But, it is not only disrespectful toward the other . . . it’s disrespectful to myself.  By reducing me and those around me to a set of flaws by which I apply a measuring stick, I am setting myself and them up for failure.

I have a choice every day to look at myself as a miracle (and to see others that way too).  It is miraculous what we can achieve – alone and together, flaws and all.  So, how can I make this my reality?  How can I show myself more respect?

• I resolve to look more closely at my strengths, rather than to dissect my flaws.  (Because when I focus on my flaws, it makes me feel lousy and to make myself feel better, I start to look at the flaws of others.)
• I resolve to pay more attention to what I am doing to influence the results I am getting.  (Because it’s hardly ever someone else’s fault when my results aren’t good.)
• I resolve to lighten up when I foul up.  (Because, I am a human being, and sometimes, doo doo happens.)

What does it feel like to work in a respectful workplace?

I’m blessed to work with a partner who respects me, and who I respect.  As a result, our workplace is filled with grace and ease.  We have fun.  And, even when we don’t agree on something or find ourselves in a challenging circumstance, we’re able to approach the situation with kindness toward one another.  Okay, so from time to time I know I can be a little stubborn about things . . . and still, Georgine doesn’t respond with sharpness or impatience.  She hears me out.  And, I try to do the same for her.  I hope I’m successful most of the time.

So, when thinking about what it feels like to work in respectful workplace, it was easy for me to come up with some descriptors: fun, light-hearted, productive, responsive, creative, effective, inspiring, and safe.

I can’t imagine what it would feel like to work in a disrespectful workplace, and I don’t really want to find out.  All I know is that we have a respectful workplace because we choose it.  And, I have responsibilities in that department.  I can’t expect Georgine to do all the respect work.  Respect is a two-way street. Like our video says:  “Want more respect?  Do more respect.” So here are some of the most important things I have to do:

• Listen.  And, that doesn’t mean just keep my ears open.  It means I have to keep my mind and heart open to discover the meaning behind the words.
• Accept.  I have to take it as it comes.  Not everything gets to be on my terms.
• Collaborate.  I’m in a partnership.  It’s not all about me.
• Celebrate.  It’s important to acknowledge our successes and share what’s right in our world.

When I do these things, and more, I feel the respect we have for each other in my bones.  And, I love that feeling.

Stop and Listen

Listening is an action that everyone I have encountered agrees is respectful. Yet, as most others I imagine, my listening tends to be very egocentric. I find myself listening to others and my mind is affirming the commonalities I have (ways to relate to what they are saying) or observing ways I am different.

Listening to simply understand is a practice that takes self awareness and discipline.

I love this excerpt from Margaret Weatley’s book called Turning to One Another: Simple Conversations to Restore Hope to the Future that I read a number of years ago and it reminds me about the importance of staying focused in the moment; to truly listen to a friend, colleague or family member share their voice and experience.
Great healing is available to us when we listen to each other. No matter what we have experienced in life, if we can tell our story to someone who listens, we find it easier to deal with our circumstances. Listening is such a simple act. It requires us to be present (and that takes practice!) and willing to just sit there and listen with the intent to understand. Why is being heard so healing? It has something to do with the fact that listening creates a relationship.

We know from science that nothing in the universe exists in isolation. Everything takes form from relationships. Our natural state is to be together. Though we keep moving away from each other, we never lose the need to be in relationship. Not listening creates fragmentation. Listening moves us closer to becoming more whole.

Here are some tips that, when I practice, make me a better listener.
• Listen as if the other person is truly wise.
• Listen with an openness to be influenced by another’s perspective.
• Listen in a way that supports the other to fully expressing themselves.
• Listen for deeper questions, patterns, and insights.

photo credit: B Rosen

RESPECT: Find out what it means to us!

I believe that we are all called to speak about or focus on topics that “call us”. The topic and practice of respect has been calling me for a couple of years now. I’m proud that my partner and I have answered the call. Interestingly, as the journey continues, so does my fascination with it.

My thoughts today are on the well know lyrics of a popular song by Aretha Franklin.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Find out what it means to me

I find myself singing those lyrics with great passion, hoping that the people in my life ask me the question that I long to answer for them. What does it mean to me?
In the quiet of my space, I wonder if they are longing to have me ask them the question.
What does respect mean to you?
Let us know what respect means to you.

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Welcome!

Welcome to the world of respect! My name is Lynae, my name’s Georgine and we’re Madd-Steiny. Check out our youtube video about respect. It is an inspirational video designed to engage employees to act in ways that enhance your workplace culture. In just 3 minutes you can make a difference in your workplace, school, or community. This blog was started to create awareness and bring respect to all. Do you know the definition of respect? Here is what the dictionary says:

Respect is an esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability.

That’s the formal definition but we want to know what YOU think respect is.

Respect is…